talking

[anneke]

before I got diagnosed Adhd The psychiatrist was thinking that I was autistic. I never liked talking and I never spoke a word before I was 3. on that age I started to talk becouse I wanted to go to school. sins then I have always answered questions but did not speak verry mutsh only when needed.

now it is diferent spmethimes I cant stop talking

this year I disited to go with a friend to peru and some other countries of south america. I learnd spanish for 8 weeks here, and it was a surprise for me that it went so well becouse I was always bad in languages and I hat french.

the problem is when my frend is around I can not speak spanish to anyonne else, I just dont find the words. when I am alone I dont have anny trobble.

its like I am afrait that my friend is going to lough with me when I do it wrong. but I dont have that feeling. Its the first time in my live that I have a real friend and she knows and understand my problems , I have nothing to hide ore be afrait for with her around.

anny sugestions , becouse she is a bit mad that she has to arange everithing like I dont want to:

by the way greating to everybothy Peru is realy verry nice, and newyear in Buenos aires ( Argentina) was mega cool

sugestions are always welcome for tha last 8 weeks that I am going to be here.

greatings and hugs from peru

Anneke

[Linda]

Welcome back..I have missed you...Please don't worry about your friend laughing...just be yourself!!! ;D ;D ;D

[finnmom]

;DAnneke ;D
HI, I follow Linda here, just ignore the fault´s and speak as much as you want. That´s the best way to learn, and how well do they speak flamish or english in Peru ;D

You can speak good enough, that´s all you need. Go for it!!!!! Have a great trip!!!!!
Marja

[AustinsMom]

Sometimes I think it is easy to get into certain habits with people, like you are used to letting your friend do the talking, and she is used to doing it, so she just jumps right in and does it. You might have to make it a point to break that cycle. You've obviously talked aabout this some with her, so maybe you can just say before you do something like "this time I'll try to order the (whatever). If I have problems you can jump in." So as you make it a point to do the talking, it will become more natural and easier for you to do. Just gaining awareness is the big thing and you are already there, so now you can change it. Good luck, I know you'll do great.

[AnneM]

Hi Anneke ... its great to hear from you!!

I can relate to your talking scenario in that when I am with my husband (who is VERY outgoing) I tend to be MUCH quieter than when I am on my own in a social situation ... He in no way actively 'prevents' me from talking but I seem to subconsciously "leave it to him" to do most of the talking if he is there ...

But when he isn't there ... I am much more chatty. I find it difficult to explain ... but I have found myself doing this over the years ... not just with my husband but also with friends who are more 'dominant/actively outoing' than I am ... I sort of "take a back seat" ... BUT on my own in a social situation where I am not actually "with" someone like this I can certainly 'hold my own' ...

I know I am not answering the question because I actually don't know the answer (!) but I can certainly 'relate' ...