|
|
Post by dansmommy on Jan 23, 2004 17:47:03 GMT -5
I've been bringing home a little boy who attends preschool with my dd 4 1/2 for a couple of hours a couple of times a week. He has a hard time in preschool because he's kind of wild -- doesn't want to sit in circle time, runs by and hurts people, etc. When he first started coming home with me he was doing pretty well, I think because of all the new toys. Lately he's been telling dd to tell me they won't do anything I say and dd was fighting with him today. I tried ignoring the smart-mouth routine, but I think he really expects me to do something. I think I'll take them to the children's museum next week for a change of scenery but I think I have to set some limits too. Any suggestions about how to set limits with other people's kids? I know the preschool teacher uses a lot of positive reinforcement, making a comment at set intervals. Christie
|
|
|
|
Post by TexasMom on Jan 24, 2004 0:22:18 GMT -5
I always say things like "This is the rule in this house", "We do/don't do things this way in this house", etc. The best one is "We don't listen to whinney voices in this house. If he says anything about doing it different in his house, you can reinforce the issue of being in a different house. It's worked pretty well over the years. My son's best friend pretty much has no rules at his house, but he prefers being here.
|
|
|
|
Post by finnmom on Jan 24, 2004 10:49:07 GMT -5
Yep, I agree  It´s your house, your rules, end of conversation ;D I bet he´ll very quickly aply to your rule´s when he sees your MO, that is also much better for your own kid´s, they see that all have those same rule´s.  Good luck ;D Marja |
|
|
|
Post by Honeysmom on Jan 27, 2004 0:11:05 GMT -5
I agree with your house/your rules. I have a friend who has other people's kids over after school to play and she asks the other mothers how they handle certain situations. If both parents have pretty much the same rules she will agree with the other mother on what an apprioate punishment would be. That way she doesn't have to worry about the other kid's moms getting mad at her for disicipling their kids. She said usually it only takes one time of rule breaking and it all ends once they know they will be punished. I think kids are of the impression that they can't be punished when their parents are not there.
|
|
|
|
Post by rosyred45 on Jan 28, 2004 7:48:35 GMT -5
I also agree with the my house me rules. But if you are in public, and not in "the house", just let him know that the behavior in question isn't tolorated by you.
That's just in case he tried the your not my mommy, just tell him he's with you and must abide by your rules. When mommy is around, if she puts up with it, that's on her, if it is dangerous, just remind him and if mom has that much of a problem with you disiplining her kid with her around, just quickly explain that the situation could have gotten out of hand.
Around here, we all are like one big family of parents and kids, if you didn't know us and walked in you wouldn't know who's kid was who's.
Well, if you looked at everyone, you could tell, but you know what I mean ;D
Kaiti
|
|
