Sleeping arangements

[Honeysmom]

I am just curious, is there any harm in a 4 yo boy and a 2 yo girl sharing a bedroom?

Honey is afraid to sleep upstairs with us downstairs, and he has worn out his welcome in our bed. He is taking up way more space and covers than he is allotted. If we sleep upstairs in in DD's room and they share his they both sleep all night long, if not, not one sleeps.

I do not see it as a big deal, but I made the mistake of telling my mom I was in the middle of switching the beds and she flipped out on me. She said that kids need their privacy and went on and on about how I am damaging them. I think she has a screw loose sometimes, but maybe I am worng on this one...any thoughts??? Thank...Becky

[sierra]

Mine are both boys but they shared a bedroom until just this summer. And Bean Sprout is 15. They used to fuss about sharing a room but you could tell they liked the comfort of having someone else especially at night. When they finally got their own rooms they enforced privacy for a couple weeks. Keep out signs and door shut all the time. Now they're in and out of each other's rooms all the time. And back to "he's looking at me" and "he touched my stuff" and all that other junk we used to put up with!

At their ages I wouldn't worry too much about the gender difference. But think ahead and decide when you'll want them to have privacy. Maybe when Honey is 6 or 7. By then I hope they're both able to get to sleep on their own.

[LurkNoMore]

Honey...my kids are 2 years apart as well...they are now 12 (girl) and 9-1/2 (boy w/ADHD). Until they were 4 & 6 we lived in a 2 bedroom house, so they shared a room (that is the major reason we moved...we knew that they could only share a room for a couple of more years). Even when we first moved, we kept them in the same room for a couple of months (we needed to repaint my son's room and get him new furniture, b/c our old house was so small, at that time he was still sleeping in a toddler bed). Around that time, he started asking when he could sleep in his own room (so we knew he was ready for it) There are times even now when they will have "sleep overs" in each others rooms (or if my parents are visiting they will sleep in Chris' room, so he will sleep in the extra bed in Sara's room). When we go on vacation, we usually get 2 double beds and up until now they have shared a bed (I know that will also be coming to an end too, now that my daughter is almost a teenager)

Go with what works best for your family!

[aimee30]

I don't see anything wrong with them sharing a room at their age. Of course when they get older things they will need their privacy. For now don't worry about it.

If it ain't broke, don't fix it.

[Honeysmom]

Thanks for your advice. We decided to go ahead and continue the move, now our only problem in trying to get the queen size box spring up the stairs...I see a trip to slumberland in my future.