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Post by tiniree on Feb 20, 2004 16:05:55 GMT -5
Hi All -
My family and I are currently under a ton of stress around here. My husband is being transferred to another state and we currently have our house up for sale.
Trying to keep the house in "Model home" clean is driving us nuts! Every time the phone rings we both hope & dread that its an agent wanting to show the house.
Both the boys alternate between being exciting and literally "freaking out" about he move. I know this is normal, but with ADHD kids, the "freaking out" is not a little thing.
Our 8 y/o has suddenly gotten worse at school, and I have a sinking suspicion it's because he knows he won't be there next year. Our 4 y/o asks a million times a day "Will we take......... this with us" (fill in the blank). We've talked and talked with both the boys to try and give them a sense of security about the move and have also explained about having to keep "things in order around here", but it's getting tough!
Whenever I think about everything involved in moving to another state, I cringe!
Sorry about the venting, but I know you all will understand!
Marie
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Post by vickilyn32 on Feb 20, 2004 16:13:32 GMT -5
I know exactly what you are going thru. We moved almost 6 years ago from upstate NY to west central Texas. DS was going into 2nd grade and DD was about to start kindergarten. They were very nervous at first, but adjusted better than I did after we got here. Its not too hard on the kids when they are little. My Step-sister was in 8th grade, and I dont think she ever adjusted to the move very well. Good luck with selling your house, and I hope everything goes well for you. One thing I did was to buy each of the kids a disposable camera and let them take pictures of whatever they wanted to. Lots were of friends, but they also took pictures of the town pool, the park, pizza place, ice-cream place, etc.
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Post by kstquilter on Feb 20, 2004 19:46:22 GMT -5
good luck! i've been there and are currently awaiting notification of another move.
you're right, trying to keep the house clean enough to sell is a huge job! luckily we lived in an area where housing went pretty quick. same case should apply here but we're still waiting to hear if we're going or not so we're under alot of stress as well.
i think both my kids did pretty well with the move. ds was so young he doesn't really remember living anywhere else but dd does. she wants to go to college back where she was born even tho she's lived here more than half her life. luckily if we move this time, we'll be going back to the same place and hopefully make that possible.
we had so many problems when we moved here tho so hope yours goes more smoothly. my dad died in the middle of everything so we did everyone on the phone and then after we had the moving van in the driveway, i had quit my job, pulled the kids out of school, the people buying our house backed out! what a nightmare!
however we all survived. sure wasn't a good way to do it tho.
Good luck!
karen
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Post by StrugglingAgain on Feb 20, 2004 21:23:50 GMT -5
About six months ago we moved from northern MO to south TX. Each time the realtor showed our house I threw ADHD son and dog into the car and rode around. We'd not lived there long enough to have friends to go visit while the house was being shown! We moved about a week before my ADHD/ODD son started second grade. He has adjusted really well.....considering. I have found that my son didn't do well till after Christmas in Kindergarten, first grade, OR second grade. There's just something about getting through that first half of school. He finally starts acting well in the classroom and BANG.....school is out for the summer! **Sigh** It's neverending, but he handles it better than I do. I feel like every year I have to train a teacher. I hope your move goes well. A move is difficult on EVERYONE, so if you remember that, it might make it easier when the children are having a hard time of it. Probably the very best thing I do is get him started in some kind of sport. THEN you have something in common with the other parents, and the children make friends right away. Good luck, hang in there!
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Post by finnmom on Feb 21, 2004 5:48:22 GMT -5
I´ve only move´d in this same community, so I didnt have to "rip kid´s of"-of anything. But I know about selling the house, AAARRRGGGHHHH ;D It still make´s me freak out when I remember it. Although it´s aesy to sell a house in this district, selling a 2 betroom apartment was not so easy. Well, it worked out finally, and now we live in a very nice house, but I still remember it with fear ;D ;D ;D ;D
I hope everything goes well, giving them cameras sounds like a good idea, you might also get them collect (e-mail/) adresse´s now so they can keep up with good friend´s. Internet might also help, find out the new district (if you already know) and figure out what will be THE thing for kid´s to wait and do there. Just some thought´s!
Marja
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