SKay
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Post by SKay on Aug 16, 2004 17:36:58 GMT -5
DS says whatever is on his mind--just doesn't understand that he could offend people. We were in Wal-Mart a few days ago and saw a couple of Moslem women in full garb; all we could see was their eyes. DS said "Why are you dressed like that?" One tried to be nice but I couldn't quite understand what she said. He responded, "You look like women from the Bible." What should I have said? I was totally speechless (until after they left).
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Post by Linda on Aug 17, 2004 6:52:16 GMT -5
This is a hard one for me...because I do this somewhat! In my opinion your ds didn't sound that bad to me ...just curious :PI am sure you have already talked to him about it and that is just about all we can do as parents.
Paul kind of done the same thing at MCDONALDS when he was small and asked a man why he had a towel on his head!!I too was mortified but he really just wanted to know!
Time will take care of a lot of the "blurting" when your ds is a little older.
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Post by sportsmom on Aug 17, 2004 7:28:24 GMT -5
All I can say is[glow=red,2,300]Out of the mouth of Babes[/glow]
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Post by Brocksmom on Aug 17, 2004 7:40:08 GMT -5
If they don't ask the person you can assured they'll ask you........ in a really loud voice within earshot of whoever they are talking about so you know they hear it..Very embarrassing.
They do grow out of it.. now they know to wait, or whisper what's on they're minds
Curiosity doesn't always seem to be a good thing ;D
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Post by AnneM on Aug 17, 2004 8:25:43 GMT -5
;D ;D I think that is really cute! ... ;D ;D
but I do know what you mean though ... it can be sooo embarrassing for us parents speechlessly witnessing the at times scary combination of curiosity and large mouths!! .. ;D
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Post by sweety on Aug 17, 2004 9:21:27 GMT -5
 It's funny. There is an expression in my family. "Don't ask Helen a question if you don't want to hear the answer." Even at 47, I have to be VERY careful about blurting out things. My daughter is not quite so bad but it is a trait that goes with all of the ADHD folks in my family. ;D ;D I once told my aunt that my mother didn't like my uncle's sister.(I didn't know who that snobby lady was, I was 8 at the time) I have put my foot into it many times as an adult. It just goes a long with loosing things and being "the life of the party". ;D ;D
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Post by rosyred45 on Aug 17, 2004 10:29:00 GMT -5
oh boy, mine have sometimes-finally-waited or whispered. We were in Walmart one time and there was a gentleman in a wheel chair with one leg that had been amputated. TARA asks, Hey mommy, where's that guys other leg  . I said, well, honey, I'm not sure, but you might have just hurt his feelings yelling like that. I try to answer the "questions" as straight forward as possible. And don't feel bad, I'm sure the ladies have heard a lot worse, unfortunately.  Although I think I pu tmy foot in it a couple weeks ago. A gentleman with the archers wanted a hot dog. Well, because of religion, he can't have pork. So I told him, the hot dogs weren't beef, but I was thinking of him when I had the venison/beef roast sandwiches. He sorta looked at me a little funny :-[But I was ::[ thinking of him  |
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Post by camismom on Aug 18, 2004 8:21:46 GMT -5
The way I look at it, these women should take into consideration that he is just a curious kid. All nationalities have children... they should know how they act. Try not to let it embarrass you. The only thing I woould do is ask him next time he has a question like that he wants to ask.... then ask you. But if he can't help the blurting, then shrug it off best you can and move on. Again, anyone who is a parent, aunt, uncle, whatever (around children in other words) has been in the same shoes....
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Post by rosyred45 on Aug 18, 2004 8:30:28 GMT -5
I agree Christy, kids always ask what's on their mind. I think that if you try to stiffle the curiosity, in the long run it hurts the kids.
Just a matter of how you deal with it at the time
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Post by Linda on Aug 18, 2004 10:29:14 GMT -5
Heck...I always ask what is on my mind...how else are you going to know?Drives my husband nuts! |
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Post by rosyred45 on Aug 18, 2004 10:41:19 GMT -5
Mike too ;D
I have to know things 8-)It is my business if I wonder why. I don't want to spread any false statements now do I ;D
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SKay
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Post by SKay on Aug 18, 2004 14:51:34 GMT -5
Thanks for the replies. I'm hoping they did understand. After they left, I think I said something to DS about not being concerned about the way others are dressed. I just tried to bring up the subject again, and he had no idea what I was talking about. |
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Post by finnmom on Aug 18, 2004 14:56:22 GMT -5
Skay isin´t that just typical ;D that he didn´t have a clue on what you were talking to. My ds does that too, blurt´s out something and then forget´s he never even asked I´am sure they did got it right, and if they didn´t than they should think it a little deeper, kid´s do ask thing´s, no big deal!! |
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