Post by LaTonya on Jul 2, 2005 20:41:21 GMT -5
This is about me. Not about my kids. But it explains why I know what they are dealing with having adhd.
When I was smaller I played rough with my uncle and my cousin. They always stopped but I didnt know how to stop so therefore I got in trouble every time. I couldnt understand why I always got in trouble. I was always loud. Could not have a quiet voice at all. I knew I was like this. But I didnt know why. I was always on the go. I was always in trouble for not being quiet. OR not settling down.
About 9 or 10 years ago we went camping with my family. I was an adult. In my twenties. I cant remember if I had my daughter yet or not but it was 10 years ago or less. A long time friend of the family was messign with me and just rough housing a bit. Nothing bad but we were just goofing around. We had always done it. When I started doing it back and thought all was fun he turned on me and got angry. He actually fell out of his chair I guess that is why he was angry. I got yelled at by my mom as usual. My mom isnt a bad mom or anything. She was trying to get me to settle down. That caused alot of friction in my family. Everyone was like you need to settle down and stuff so that made me less fond of them.
My mom had not heard of adhd. There was no treatment nothing. Even if there were she wouldnt have done it.
Well now looking back I know what it was. It was this horrid adhd. It got me into trouble everytime. Even to this day people think I am angry when I talk but in reality I am just excited when I talk. So my voice projects. I am quick to do things like get upset, and my house cannot stay clean due to the fact that I cannot stay on one task for more than a minute. I am 32 this month and I can just imagine how hard it is for my kids who are 5 and 8. Now I have tried varius meds but they all make me soo sick. So I just live with it. I rather not and have a clean home and be able to stay on task.But it's not gonna happen.
They know they are hyper. They know when the cannot settle down. They will know when the are older. That hey why couldnt I settle down like everyone else. Or why couldnt I keep my room clean like I was supposed to.
I guess my moral of my story is is that they realize they are different. They will realize when they are older. This has taught me to stop yelling at my kids for something that is so out of thier control. Dont expect miricles from them. So except the unkept rooms, except the loud voices and just look at the smiles they have and just make sure that they keep those smiles on those little faces. My son ran out of his reg med today. I had to give him a lower dose. Trust me when I say night and day difference. He has been soo loud. We went out to eat today and thankfully we were the only ones in the restaurant cause everythhing that came out of his little mouth was soo loud. But let me tell ya there was a huge smile on that face every moment. He was soo excited when he would talk. He put lots of energy into his conversations. What a joy. Someday it will be so quiet in my home and I will miss it so much. We are just now able to go out on family outtings. As they were so uncontrollable. I took the time to read a simple book and it has taught me more than I could imagine. I wont say the name unless I am aloud to. But it is a discapline helping book. I dont yell or get upset anymore. I am plane enjoying my sweeties.
Thanks for listening to my story.
LaTonya
When I was smaller I played rough with my uncle and my cousin. They always stopped but I didnt know how to stop so therefore I got in trouble every time. I couldnt understand why I always got in trouble. I was always loud. Could not have a quiet voice at all. I knew I was like this. But I didnt know why. I was always on the go. I was always in trouble for not being quiet. OR not settling down.
About 9 or 10 years ago we went camping with my family. I was an adult. In my twenties. I cant remember if I had my daughter yet or not but it was 10 years ago or less. A long time friend of the family was messign with me and just rough housing a bit. Nothing bad but we were just goofing around. We had always done it. When I started doing it back and thought all was fun he turned on me and got angry. He actually fell out of his chair I guess that is why he was angry. I got yelled at by my mom as usual. My mom isnt a bad mom or anything. She was trying to get me to settle down. That caused alot of friction in my family. Everyone was like you need to settle down and stuff so that made me less fond of them.
My mom had not heard of adhd. There was no treatment nothing. Even if there were she wouldnt have done it.
Well now looking back I know what it was. It was this horrid adhd. It got me into trouble everytime. Even to this day people think I am angry when I talk but in reality I am just excited when I talk. So my voice projects. I am quick to do things like get upset, and my house cannot stay clean due to the fact that I cannot stay on one task for more than a minute. I am 32 this month and I can just imagine how hard it is for my kids who are 5 and 8. Now I have tried varius meds but they all make me soo sick. So I just live with it. I rather not and have a clean home and be able to stay on task.But it's not gonna happen.
They know they are hyper. They know when the cannot settle down. They will know when the are older. That hey why couldnt I settle down like everyone else. Or why couldnt I keep my room clean like I was supposed to.
I guess my moral of my story is is that they realize they are different. They will realize when they are older. This has taught me to stop yelling at my kids for something that is so out of thier control. Dont expect miricles from them. So except the unkept rooms, except the loud voices and just look at the smiles they have and just make sure that they keep those smiles on those little faces. My son ran out of his reg med today. I had to give him a lower dose. Trust me when I say night and day difference. He has been soo loud. We went out to eat today and thankfully we were the only ones in the restaurant cause everythhing that came out of his little mouth was soo loud. But let me tell ya there was a huge smile on that face every moment. He was soo excited when he would talk. He put lots of energy into his conversations. What a joy. Someday it will be so quiet in my home and I will miss it so much. We are just now able to go out on family outtings. As they were so uncontrollable. I took the time to read a simple book and it has taught me more than I could imagine. I wont say the name unless I am aloud to. But it is a discapline helping book. I dont yell or get upset anymore. I am plane enjoying my sweeties.
Thanks for listening to my story.
LaTonya
So it´s not all bad then 
