Hello everyone.New here and need help:)

[Gina2005]

:)Hello everyone,Im new here and Im so glad to have found a forum on this subject.My son is 8 years old and has adhd,he will be starting his first treatment any day now (awaiting doctors phone call) and im so stressed out right now I have known that he is hyperactive ever since he was very little..Iv seen it before as my cousin has adhd and my son had all the same symptoms from a very early age.The problem is,Im in spain and its taken me SO long for a doctor to take my sons case seriously that he has always had problems at school etc.
My problem is his teacher.She treats him as if he has a contagious desease She makes him sit all on his own,she doesnt let him play out side at playtime,she doesnt let him play with his friends and she has recently refused to even teach him! She has decided that I have to do her job.She sent me a note yesturday which I have translated..it says (word for word):
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"I have noticed that your son has NOT being doing all of his homework lately,he had better do SOMTHING because I just cant be bothered with him as he constantly gets on my nerves"
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I just couldent beleive what I was reading and Im so upset..how can she expect ME to do HER job?! She knows his condition and that I am doing all thats in my power to hurry things along and get his treatment started,but she has no sympathy what so ever..not even for my 8 year old son! The reason that he doesnt do all of his homework is because some days he brings homs SO much,that we just dont have time to finish it,and on top of it all,its in a foreign language and I just cant help him with some things.Iv tried complaining,but the head mistress thinks that my sons teacher is right and that dealing with my son is TOO much for her.I just dont know what to do or where to go..my son is NOT getting an education because his teacher has decided that he is just too much hard work...what can I do? I feel awful for him..he must feel awful about this whole situation! What can I do about this??

[Linda]

Hi Gina and welcome to our forum...we have a wealth of information and some of us have been where you are now.

I would report this teacher immediately :(In my opinion she has no business teaching.Advocate hard for your child...he needs you to do this.

I am so sorry your son has to suffer in the hands of that so called teacher. Is there any way you can move him into another classroom?

Remember you are a good mom and doing all you can for your child.

[camismom]

Hi Gina and welcome. I can so relate to what you are going through, I went through it with my dd's teacher when she was first dx'd.... and that was in the U.S. Anyway, you already made the first move and got now where, but don't let that stop you. You got no where with the head mistress, but the head mistrss has a boss too you know. Find out who that is and don't stop until you get something done. For a teacher to even say such a thing should be grounds for dismissal, and the head mistress agreeing should go too. Your child can not help his condition but he is entitled to an education just like any other child that fits into their cookie cutter mold. They are earning a paycheck to teach ALL kids, not just the "perfect" ones.

We have a saying on this board. We jokingly refer to ourselves as witches when we need be..... there are plenty of hats and brooms to go around if you need one. I'll be glad to lend you mine until you get your own.

Put it to use and demand something be done.

Good luck and remember this place is ALWAYS here when you need it. We have people from all over so you are bound to someone on here when you're here.

[catseye]

Welcome to the forums! It is a great place, and NOW you know you are NOT alone.. We are all either dealing with this crud the school try's to deal, or have done it at one time or another...

I dont know how it really works over there in spain... Here in the u.s. they have laws that protect our kids, and an act called the "no child left behind"... This give parents a bit more power to try and get their child the education they need... It still leaves problems, as everything our kids need costs money, and well the school isnt going to tell you about a service that will cost them money... It takes tons of research to know your rights, and what is out there to be used for our kids...

What the teacher wrote you should not be tolerated, I am so dumbfounded as to why the head mistress would support the teacher on that stance... In spain is there some sort of a committee that oversee's the school? Can you go above the schools head? If there is start by writting letters to them, explaining the situation... Good luck! And vent here all you need...

cat

[Linda]

cat is right...even in the US we have to dig in our heels and get what our kids deserve and have every right to. Sometimes it is about money...that's why we need this

[mom2tj]

Gina,


Welcome, everyone here knows what your going through, just woundering where you come from?


Fight for him be a bi@@ if you have to

[finnmom]

Hi Gina and welcome, you´ve found a great place for support

I´d deffenately fight for this, even though it´s Spain, and I know very little of spanish legislature for education. What I did when I had to defend my ds´s right´s for learning, not as hars way as you, I called every single state office who are responsiple of education, then I called to the head of our school district, told him that I´ll go as far as i have to if he wouldnt do his job, told him that I had already contacted the authoritie´s and left it there.

It took only a little while untill they did get it organized

Educate yourself, digg out all the possibilities you have to deffend his educating, then scare them and let them the opportunity to do something, but if they dont..... Get that nasty, unprofessional letter printed to some big paper or somewhere I would take that note over the head mistress, there is someone above her and if she´s not doing anything for this, someone will!!!

Good luck for you, remember, if you dont do something no one will. Be a Mean Mom!!!

Btw; if you didnt get it from my username: I´am from Finland, so I know in other countrie´s they do thing´s differently, but they all do have the law´s and guideline´s to follow!

[AnneM]

Gina a BIG WELCOME to you!! ... I really hope you find the help and support you need here and hope to see you around the board...

I am in the UK ... and although we are both in Europe I know that things in our two countries are often handled differently... I have been to Spain on many occasions and LOVE it ... but I sure don't like the sound of what is happening on the education front for you and your son right now!!

However, I hasten to add I am in NO way blaming the Spanish education system ... this problem in fact comes down to TWO individuals (and sadly we can find people like that ALL OVER the world!) ... and these two individuals are treating your son incredibly unfairly!!

I am with the others ... I would go as HIGH up the ladder as you need to go to make sure this is recognised and dealt with !! It also sounds like he is getting a large amount of homework which at age 8 particularly is downright (IMHO) ridiculous and in fact detrimental because then homework can turn into a battle ... a battle I have been familiar with at times over the years with my now 16 year old ... and it isn't fun - for anyone - including the child and the parents!!

Gina - WELCOME and please keep us posted ... I look forward to seeing you around the board!

[Gina2005]

Thank you all SO much for the warm welcome and advice!! Iv been reading this forum and I LOVE it in here already because Iv realised that me and my son are not alone and that is such a wonderul feeling.My sons case is very similar to a few cases Iv read on here,he can remember things he did when he was 3 years old,but it takes him 20 minutes to remeber what the number 20 is and its very stressing because he brings home pages and pages of math homework everyday and it takes us SO long to do just one page because he just cant get the numbers or just concentrate on them for more than a couple of minutes.He drifts off into a world of his own which means it takes him AGES just to do simple things like get dressed etc.He gets bored VERY quickly too and has HUGE out bursts of screams,rolling around,galloping around on his hands and knees,he is loud and feels the need to talk constantly..even on his own.He is verbally abusive at times and very aggressive which is a problem because he is very hurtful to my 5 year old daughter,he has chewed his nails down to the stump (even on his feet)...I could go on and on but I guess you kow most f the symptoms already.I have learned how to handle this without medication,but I can assure you that I was SO releived when the doctor told me he could start on something to help him and of course us.I am deffinately going t look into doing something about this teacher,I have put the note away and show it to the head teacher and the school council etc..I am also going to show it to my sons doctor..I will go as far as I have to go to make sure my son happy again.Thank you all SO much! I am deffinately going to love it in here,I already feel so much better and stronger !

[finnmom]

[glow=red,2,300]GO GINA GO[/glow]

Sound´s good to me, drive them in to the corner and get them good We have lot´s of info in here, lot´s of support and lot´s of fun too, stay with us and keep us updated.

[Linda]

STAY STRONG GINA

[catseye]

GO GET THEM GINA!!

I have news for you though, you were strong before you got here, you just needed a reminder that you can do this!!

cat