Post by stpmom on Jun 24, 2004 15:08:20 GMT -5
To all of you who replied to my "I feel like the stepmom from h**l", I thank you. A rush of relief came crashing down on me as I read your thoughts to me. I'm not crazy and I'm not alone. I don't get on line often but I have a feeling that is about to change. I thank all of you so much for allowing me to vent, I needed that so badly.
My step son has only been on medication for about a year. He was dignosed in pre-school- kindergarden, but it was not until he started really disrupting class and not allowing other children to learn, did the teachers say anthing. I had been begging for his father to take him to the doctor for med's for along time, but he didn't want his son "labeled", so he wouldn't take him. He threatened to kill a little boy in first grade and got suspended, lucky he didn't get expelled, but then they finally took him for meds.
It helps a little, but not with the "who cares" attitude or the arguing, defient behavior. I'm the one who deals with him on a daily basis, but have no say so whatsoever in treatment or doctors visits. He used to see a child psycologist, but then they just stopped taking him. I ask his father all the time why, and he doesn't have an answer. I'll take him, but nope. When I thought the med's had stopped working nobody would do anything. Sometimes I feel like I'm drowning, trying to save someone who doesn't give two hoots about me or the saving!!
There have been no major changes lately except that he doesn't go to the sitters anymore, he stays here. Bio-mom sure is a problem, but that is beyond my control and I realized that a long time ago. She had another child who was adhd when she was young and when that child got to be to much to handle, she handed the then teenager over to the grandmother, washed her hands of the whole situation. That is probably going to happen this time around too.
The bouncing back and forth thing between our house and bio-mom really doesn't seem to be a problem. He knows exactly how long he stays here and there. He has a rough first day, sometimes two, when he returns because he is so used to telling his bio-mom what to do and when to do it. And that definatly does not fly here.
That is the rest of my story.
Again, I thank you all so much for your replies. I don't think I've felt so thankful in a very long time.
Make it a great day.
Stpmom
My step son has only been on medication for about a year. He was dignosed in pre-school- kindergarden, but it was not until he started really disrupting class and not allowing other children to learn, did the teachers say anthing. I had been begging for his father to take him to the doctor for med's for along time, but he didn't want his son "labeled", so he wouldn't take him. He threatened to kill a little boy in first grade and got suspended, lucky he didn't get expelled, but then they finally took him for meds.
It helps a little, but not with the "who cares" attitude or the arguing, defient behavior. I'm the one who deals with him on a daily basis, but have no say so whatsoever in treatment or doctors visits. He used to see a child psycologist, but then they just stopped taking him. I ask his father all the time why, and he doesn't have an answer. I'll take him, but nope. When I thought the med's had stopped working nobody would do anything. Sometimes I feel like I'm drowning, trying to save someone who doesn't give two hoots about me or the saving!!
There have been no major changes lately except that he doesn't go to the sitters anymore, he stays here. Bio-mom sure is a problem, but that is beyond my control and I realized that a long time ago. She had another child who was adhd when she was young and when that child got to be to much to handle, she handed the then teenager over to the grandmother, washed her hands of the whole situation. That is probably going to happen this time around too.
The bouncing back and forth thing between our house and bio-mom really doesn't seem to be a problem. He knows exactly how long he stays here and there. He has a rough first day, sometimes two, when he returns because he is so used to telling his bio-mom what to do and when to do it. And that definatly does not fly here.
That is the rest of my story.
Again, I thank you all so much for your replies. I don't think I've felt so thankful in a very long time.
Make it a great day.
Stpmom
I'll go get the crate for the next one ;D
.....except when my computer quit on us a while ago 
