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Post by chrissmom on Nov 18, 2004 19:29:09 GMT -5
My 9 year old son just came running out of the shower screaming LOOK WHAT HAPPENED...when he came in my room I noticed that he had shaved a huge chunk of hair out of the top of his head right done to the scalp. I asked him why he did it and he told me he didnt know that would happen,,I then asked him what I use the razor for and he said to take the hair off your legs,,,now he knows that razors are not allowed to be touched, he knows what they do,,I am looking for a few suggestions on how to handle this one,,,
A. would you send him to school, knowing he would be embarassed. But with the thought of knowing he knew what would happen and should have to pay the consequenses for what he has done...
B. Keep him home
C. Let him go in late and wait for the barber shop to open.
also does anyone feel he should be disiplined for this or is the humiliation of what he has done enough.
Thanks for your help....
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Post by Linda on Nov 18, 2004 20:11:06 GMT -5
Hi and welcome to our family  I guess if i thought he had learned his lesson....and i am being the softie here...I would let him go in late and take him to a barber. I wouldn't discipline him for it either....the natural consequenses seems to be enough! |
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Post by mothercat on Nov 18, 2004 20:46:37 GMT -5
C. I guess I am soft but it seems like the shock of reality as to what he did would be enough without forcing him to go to school. Kids at school dont forget even when the hair grows back and they can be vicous with their reminders.
I would probably call the barber ahead and maybe a good speech from the barber about how dangerous it was would kind of reinforce moms rule of no playing with razors. I am just really glad my boys never thought of that one. My oldest has hair down to his butt and the 11 year old is gaining on him. (very indiviualistic and they are very proud of their hair) even tho their granpa calls them hippies.hehehe
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Post by finnmom on Nov 19, 2004 6:36:04 GMT -5
Welcome Chrissmom C, me too. I wouldn´t punish him, I think he learned it the hard way  He know´s not to thouch them, now he has scarw´s(well, not exactly) to remind him and that´s enough. I bet he got more scared than you  Poor boy...always listen to what mom say´s  |
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Post by catseye on Nov 19, 2004 7:39:29 GMT -5
A bunch of dang softies here I tell ya!! LOL ;D
I vote for c also... The natural consequences would be his only disapline, if it were my child...
Dont feel too bad, sd wanted her hair shorter before school... Her mom has told us that she wants sd to grow her hair out... Sd still wanted it shorter but I wouldnt allow it because I didnt want to go against what her mom said... Sd (then 8) proceeded to chop her hair off the first day of school... It still looks horrible! IMO...
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Post by rosyred45 on Nov 19, 2004 8:30:56 GMT -5
HMMMMMMM, I have kept Mikey home after I botched a hair cut, so I'll go with the rest of the softies here. Thank goodness for people accepting walk ins  My daughter is the one that cut herslef when she was about 4, she just wanted to see what it was and cut her fingers good, I wanted to cry for her. Anyhow, welcome to the family, look around and make yourself at home |
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Post by finnmom on Nov 19, 2004 9:03:11 GMT -5
My, (then 5y) ds over heard me telling someone I should cut my then 2y old dd´s hair..... not a long time after that I started wondering how quiet it was at the house Yeah, you guessed: he had cut her hair(pretty well too ). these thing´s happend´s!! |
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Post by Linda on Nov 19, 2004 11:36:10 GMT -5
I think a lot of kids do this whether they are ADHD or not!
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Post by camismom on Nov 19, 2004 14:23:13 GMT -5
Sounds like a typical impulsive act of our ADHDrs. I am with the others though... he learned his lesson the hard way and the natural consequence will be punishment enough. Imagine how many times he'll have to explain his new hair do to his classmates. |
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Post by chrissmom on Nov 19, 2004 15:35:29 GMT -5
Thanks for all the input,,,I did take some of the advice as I took him to the barber at 7:30 this morning..he did get a lecture from him, He also went to the principals office to ask if he could keep his hat on,,,after explaining to her what he did, she let him..so it seems that once again he has done something wrong and basically has gotten away with it,.he is skinned down to his scalp but you can still see the spot where he shaved,,,if he cut it down that much he would off been as bald as a cue ball.good news is the spot will grow back quickly,..but he did get himself grounded,,he is punished for the weekend only because like one of you said ADD Or No ADD it was wrong and if my 7 yr old non adder did it , she would of been punished too. I think if he was 4 or 5 then it wouldn't of been so bad..but he will be ten soon...so again thanks for the advice..........
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Post by rosyred45 on Nov 20, 2004 18:59:41 GMT -5
Chrissmom, Glad he got to wear the hat BUT that is part of the torment that HE is realizing naturally. He had his hat on, when normally they can't wear them. So that draws attention and asks questions. The kids will ask why he's allowed to wear the hat, and when he answers, it will be embarrassing, so hopefully it will be a natural consequence from that aspect of it, not necessarily getting away with it though |
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Post by Allanque on Nov 21, 2004 10:28:59 GMT -5
I have the theme song to the old (well, old to me!) Nickolodeon game show "What Would You Do" stuck in my head now. Thanks a lot. |
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