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Post by StrugglingAgain on Oct 7, 2005 19:16:33 GMT -5
It's always something....I get sooooo tired of it all. This is very minor and I can't believe the neighbor made something of it. My son is very good friends with twin girls (same age) who live next door. Consequently, their mother and I have become pretty good friends, though we've only lived here two years. This afternoon, one of the girls called to ask if ds could come into their house to see her hamster. I said yes. Shortly after that another neighbor asked if they could all go with her and her children to the park. I said sure. A few minutes ago, the mother of the twins called to tell me that ds got into their snack bag in the pantry and helped himself to a small snack-size bag of trail mix...then he wouldn't share with the girls at the park! SO, now we've had a big, knock down screamin' fight over it. I agree he shouldn't have done it, on the other hand, I would have valued the friendship more and not said a word, if the tables had been turned, since it was of relatively NO value. Good grief, it was a bag of cereal. Nonetheless, now I've forbidden him to ever, ever, ever go into their house again unless I'm in there. WHY did he do it in the first place? He already had IN HIS HAND some Cheetos that I had given him for snack. I just don't get it and once again, he's running off any sign of a friend I may have....*sigh*
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Post by camismom on Oct 7, 2005 19:46:41 GMT -5
He's a child for crying out loud...he was hungry..and his impulse, his "act first think later" gene took over and he got something. He was inside the home of "very good friends"..friends that had invited him in, and therefore I'm sure he felt "at home" and comfortable. The twins' mother is the one at fault....she is the ADULT in this story and she VERY MUCH overreacted in my opinion. No, your son should not have helped himself, yes, he should have shared...these things I'm sure you will deal with.... BUT, I'm sure this snack-size bag he took isn't going to cause your neighbor to go into bankruptcy!  She should have just let it go! I have seen Cami's friends do these very things while at my home and it doesn't bother me at all...I figure they are guests in my home at that moment and they should feel comfortable enough to feel at home. As a matter of fact, I try to tell them that. Now, things like rummaging thru closets, trying out the hosts makeup (as Anne had happen to her once), or going thru her personal belongings (as Marja had done to her)...THAT's a different story...but a small snack-size bag of trail mix isn't worth making a fuss over! Obviously she hasn't learned to "pick her battles". I'm sorry this happened.  |
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Post by Linda on Oct 7, 2005 20:16:26 GMT -5
Oh for crying out loud !!!!!he is just a kid.  Excuse me for saying this,but I would be very wary of "this friend"....she is clueless as far as kids go.  I agree with Christy...this woman needs to pick her battles This whole incident was crap!!  |
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Post by StrugglingAgain on Oct 7, 2005 21:00:36 GMT -5
Thanks, you guys. I guess she just hurt my feelings and I thought if anyone understood it was her. She KNOWS what I go through with him and this isn't something important enough for me to have to fight and argue with him, yet I felt I had to get into it with him. Oh well, it won't happen again because I've forbidden him to go into their house! No problem!
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Post by Kaiti on Oct 8, 2005 6:06:17 GMT -5
:-XS/A, I'm sorry to see this has happened. My neighbor has 5 kids. When ever they are at my house, they are my responsibility. PERIOD. If they sneak something food wise, I make sure to tell their mom, JUST IN CASE they have a reaction. But I don't say they snuck it, that's just well, dumb in my opinion. It serves no purpose. Just wondering, if you think the friendship is worth it, could your son go apologize for it and maybe you all can kiss and make-up? I hadn't talked to my neighbor for a while, not personal issues, just never got the chance with all the kids going in 20 directions. But they know that they can come here whenever they what.....she just feels bad sending them all 8-)I told her her 3 youngest equal Mikey so it's a fair trade when mine go to her house ;D ;D ;D Take care, and I hope you can get something worked out |
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Post by momto3wolves on Oct 8, 2005 8:55:52 GMT -5
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Post by TexasMom on Oct 8, 2005 10:37:00 GMT -5
If it makes you feel better, I had just the opposite happen. My son had a friend come over and the mother blamed me because I 'let' my son give her son a bunch of snacks without my knowledge. (I kept them in a downstairs closet). Sometimes people just want other people to raise their kids.
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Post by kstquilter on Oct 8, 2005 15:25:50 GMT -5
what a shame this mom has made this into such a huge deal. this shouldn't have even been an issue at all.
i wonder if it's because if your child has no special issues, they expect other children to act the same as their children. of course our kids don't act like other kids!
she really does need to pick her battles.
i wouldn't even think your son did anything wrong.
karen
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Post by StrugglingAgain on Oct 8, 2005 18:05:10 GMT -5
Ya know, I feel like she acted like a tattle-tale. The VERY behavior I try to stop in my own child and every other child in the neighborhood. Oh well, I need to try to brush it off or have a feud in the neighborhood. I'm quickly losing respect for her AND her husband, though.
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