Please Help

[andysmom]

I want to thanks everyone for your replies, it really is helping me to get information and support from all of you. As far as some of your questions, I do have joint custody all though the final say is mine so I can put him on medication without his permission. My son is in a early childhood development class thru my school district and he is now being transitioned to kindergarten although the teacher is having a harder time with him in kindergarten. They say he has a hard time transitioning to a different project, he has to be asked several times to do something, you have to get up to his face and have him look at you in order for him to pay attention to what you are saying. He also does not interact well with other kids, he likes to be left alone most of the time. The social worker at his school did not come right out and tell me to put him on medication, but she brings the topic up quite a bit and says that she thinks he may benefit from it. She has been observing him in class and tells me what a hard time my son has focusing and thinks medication will help with that. It seems thought that I have more of a problem with my son at daycare, he has been hitting other kids, talking back to teachers, whining, not listening, and these are things he is not doing in his kindergarten class. When I was telling the social worker about that she said that it is probably because there is not enough structure at daycare and that he has too many of his own choices to do whatever he wants. He is also getting harder to control at home, he hits his sister, he hit her with a baseball bat on Saturday ƒ¼ throws toys, cries a lot, I also have to tell him several times to do something. It is getting harder and harder to control him.

[milesofsmiles]

Hi Andysmom!! Glad to have you here . Your story sounds like a page out of my book. Our family has been through the same route you are going through from early childhood through today. We still don't have him totally figured out, but who ever will? We had the exact conversations with Nathans kindergarden teachers, he did the same things, the same reactions. Transitions were and still are a sticking point for him. But he has gone from throwing himself on the ground at the first sign of frustration, to using words to describe his feelings. That only took 4 years. Hang in there it seems like we all go through the same stages in our kids lives whether it be kindergarden, grade school, and high school. We have a great amount of knowledge and different ways of looking at things.

To make my long story short, Nathan was recently diagnosed with anxiety and given a medication to help him cope. When that happened, many of the ADD traits went away. We still have our moments, but they are not the knock down drag out confrontations we were experiencing at every turn. Nate still takes meds of ADD, but he is laughing and participating more than he has his whole life. I bring up the anxiety because resistance to transitions raises a flag with me. All of the different thearpists and Dr.s overlooked this possibility many years. There is a lot more to it than this, but make sure to mention it at your appointment. Our kids are a work in progress, and a wonderful sculpture they are becoming.

Miles

[TexasMom]

Daycare could be a problem also because your son is just tired. It's later in the day and he's had to be good for school and he's letting go. I know that Steven is harder to handle when he hasn't had enough to sleep and he's 12!

[mothercat]

andysmom said:

Thanks for your reply, I have a appointment with the doctor next week to discuss different medication options, I am still having a hard time with putting him on medication. My ex husband and some people I have talked to have told me stories about children who take medication act differently and kind of act like zombie's is how they have described it to me. What kind of emotional changes should I expect?

No offense but your ex husband sounds alot like an abuser. No amount of spanking will make an out of control adhd child "normal" (I do hate the word normal) . All kids are different and react differently to meds and sometimes it takes awhile to get the meds adjusted to the needs of each child. Medicating is a personal choice and some dont do it. I do...but others do quite well on the natural diets or feingold. If you were ADVISED not to spank then please dont. If your ex does ..let him be the culprit and tell whoever advised against it that he is not following what was said. There are other ways to punish ... positive reinforcement would be better if the child is violent. OR Maybe a positive male rolemodel. Kids do tend to act out in the same way as their parents act out towards them sometimes. Stay strong and stand your ground for your child....and be very happy that you are no longer married to the EX.

[chimchim]

Hi Everyone,

I wanted to share a story about my daughter and her diagnosis with ADHD at age 6. She is now 8 years old about to be 9, and we have been through so many doctors and medications. It was awful. There was Adderol, Strattera, Concerta....all of these she complained of stomach ache and she was unhappy or tired all of the time. So I stopped the meds...would have rather dealt with the behavior than her being sick all of the time and having to get poked and prodded at check-ups.
Then, praise God, I took a shot in the dark and decided to try a type of vitamin that I heard would help with her ADHD, along with depression, stress, anxiety, etc...it was with a Company called Melaleuca (it is on the web also). I have bought products from them before, and they are really good, non-toxic products. The vitamin is called ProvexPlus. It consists of Bilboa, Ginko Biloba, and Grape seed along with Grape Skin. She also takes Vita Bears that consist of fructose compound which helps the brain. he has been on them for two weeks now, and let me tell you, it is like night and day. I have my little girl back. She has improved drastically in school, and no longer cries about homework. Please, Please e-mail me if you want more information about this, or look up Provex Plus online...you will see that other people have tried it and it works...and will not hurt your child. I have been through the tough times, and you wouldn't believe how it is now. Please e-mail me...I will give you more info...I hope this helps anyone who has struggled with medications for their child.

Chim Chim

[SKay]

Welcome, Chim Chim! I don't know if you've seen the notice here, but our board is switching to a place. Please come see it, and register there. We would love to have you! I think the address is supportforadhd.proboards 31.com If not, the link is posted here in another thread that will take you there.

I use many of the Melaleuca products. I take the vitamins myself but have used a different brand for my kids. I just may have to try Melaleuca's! Could you tell specifically what changes have occurred?

We could continue this thread on the new site so others can see it too.