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Post by camismom on Dec 10, 2004 8:44:46 GMT -5
OK, so far as I know neither me or dh are ADHD, but this IS realtionship stuff so I hope y'all don't mind I came here. If we had a smiley with egg on his face I'd picture it here since I am always talking about my dh and how sweet he is, how much I love him, blah, blah, blah. Well, today I'm eating foot. Last night was his company's Christmas party, and boy did he get me "put out" with him.  The way he acted was as if he could have with me there or not. Does that make sense? He also acted quite juvenile in my opinion considering he's supposed to be a 40 year old ADULT now. Anyway, let me back up.... today is the 10th anniversary of our first date, which also happened to be his company's Christmas party 10 years ago at which he was the perfect gentleman. I had gotten him a sweet card and wrote a nice little note in it and had placed it in his truck for him to find this morning, thinking we would take my vehicle (as we ALWAYS do whenever we go somewhere) to the party. Well, he decides to take the truck, and of course finds the card. He reads it and thanks me for it of course, so then your average person would think he would have been a little bit more "lovey-dovey" if you will the rest of the night. WRONG!! He sat beside me the whole time at that resteraunt with his arms folded in front of him....never putting his arm around me, holding my hand, or anything. He was instead trying to act like Mr. Cutesy cracking jokes and such or Mr. thingyy with his "the guys in the back work harder than the suits up front" attitude. GRR! All this in my opinion to impress his little buddy T that he swears up and down isn't his little buddy. He was also drinking a little liquor towards the end that T got for his Dirty Santa gift and was sharing. This after already having four beers and telling me all the time to keep him away from liquor. Double GRRR! Needless to say I did not enjoy myself and was missing the gentleman I married almost ten years ago.  |
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Post by finnmom on Dec 10, 2004 9:14:09 GMT -5
Oh no Christy...husband´s; blaaaahhhhhh  Did he remeber your anniversary or could this have been because he had forgot in the first place  These thing´s happend when you have a hubby. You mentioned he´s 40y old adult, but are men really adult´s at any age  ;D I´am not laughing to you, pleace dont even think about that, but men are men.... Was he trying to pleace this "buddy" of his or acting some character for him It´s amazing how an loving and quite desent husband can turn in to a "boy" given the right company and circumstances  I feel for you, been there far too many time´s, and although I love my hubby(nad he´s very sweet and nice and elligeble ), he´s still a men and almost anything can be expected of him I bet he´s trying to make it up to you somehow  If not, you can always remind him about being nice for christmas ;D |
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Post by camismom on Dec 10, 2004 10:05:44 GMT -5
You got that right Marja! He was indeed acting the "character " for his buddy! Yes, it is amazing how personalities can change when in different company. And he's always telling Cami to act her age! Geez! Practice what you preach man! As far as the "anniversary" no, he couldn't have forgotten that because we've been planning all week to go out tonight to a place with lots of Christmas lights. This is what we did on that first date. I think you hit the nail right on the head.... he was just in character for T and not realizing how stupid it made him look for his age. As far as today.... he was given it off. Where do you think he is? In town? Planning to come take me to lunch? Of course not! He's with his mistress on the river. His mistress, of course, is his beloved boat. GRRR, GRRRR, GRRR! Don't get me wrong.... I'm not expecting nor was I expecting anything today.... it's not the real anniversary afterall... but I WAS expectibng y husband to act like my husband last night and not some kids who brought a date along with him, ya know? |
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Post by HooDunnit on Dec 10, 2004 12:09:31 GMT -5
After we were married for six months, my wife said to me, "You're not the man I married!" I felt like asking, "Who am I then?" LOL I think that when you are going out with someone / courting, you put your best foot forward. I remember once seeing a "Wife Wanted" advertisement in a restaurant. It described the characteristics -- good cook, average height, non-smoker, etc. Must have a boat. It ended, "If interested, please send a picture of the boat." LOL It just sounds to me like he was into his own experience -- drinking beer, clowning for a friend, going fishing, etc. He was only thinking of himself. There's nothing actually wrong with that, but there's nothing thoughtful or right either. That's when my wife would say to me, "I want to discuss our relationship." LOL Then I would know I was in trouble / had not been considerate. I don't like the sound of the crossed arms. Not a good sign.
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Post by camismom on Dec 10, 2004 12:18:41 GMT -5
Well, he has redeemed himself somewhat this afternoon. I rec'd a dozen roses here at work thanking me for being his girl for ten great years. I still plan to talk with him tonight about last night's actions though. Thanks for the male perspective Barry. I'm sure this too shall pass. |
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Post by HooDunnit on Dec 10, 2004 12:51:12 GMT -5
It's funny how a dozen roses can help things out. I think perhaps he is a step ahead of me! LOL I'll have to remember that one. Good luck.
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Post by finnmom on Dec 10, 2004 13:20:08 GMT -5
Dozen roses is not bad at all Way to go Ande he´s learning ;D- I liked your male perspective too Barry |
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Post by AnneM on Dec 12, 2004 13:08:09 GMT -5
This is really interesting because IS THERE SUCH A THING AS A GROWN UP ADULT MALE? LOL!! ... There was a quote on our quote box a good 2-3 weeks back which basically said that women only have to know ONE man to know them all ... but men have a much tougher time of it because women are way, way, way more complex and each one is completely different! ... Oh I wish I had that quote to hand!! ... (Sorry to our guys on here and NO OFFENCE meant at all !! LOL!) ...
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Post by rosyred45 on Dec 14, 2004 11:15:46 GMT -5
I can't believe I didn't answer this sooner, I could have sworn I did. Anyhow, Mike does that crap, well, not as often as he used to, then again, I jump righ tin with him, so that really doesn't happen much........I won't let him ignore me. As far as the liquor: Mike and Brandy get along fine, it's just Mike, Brandy and everyone else that doesn't Congrats on the 10yrs anyhow, did you think you'd see 10 yrs, 10yrs ago?  |
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Post by HooDunnit on Dec 14, 2004 11:23:58 GMT -5
RE "IS THERE SUCH A THING AS A GROWN UP ADULT MALE? LOL!! ... There was a quote on our quote box a good 2-3 weeks back which basically said that women only have to know ONE man to know them all ... but men have a much tougher time of it because women are way, way, way more complex and each one is completely different! ... "
This sounds sexist to me! LOL
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Post by rosyred45 on Dec 14, 2004 11:45:50 GMT -5
It's no fun growing up ;D
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Post by jdmom on Dec 14, 2004 12:41:46 GMT -5
But Kaiti, I've never met Mike, I swear! LOL You guys are distressing me. One minute you're telling me bad boys make good husbands and the next, you're growling about them! J/K Sorry Barry, but it's just general knowledge that men are just overgrown boys with more expensive toys! Gotcha! |
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Post by camismom on Dec 14, 2004 12:55:26 GMT -5
As far as the liquor: Mike and Brandy get along fine, it's just Mike, Brandy and everyone else that doesn't Congrats on the 10yrs anyhow, did you think you'd see 10 yrs, 10yrs ago? I have to say that first part applies to Andy pretty well too! hehe And to answer your question, I would have to say that 10 yrs ago I did feel we'd see 10 years. And I still feel we'll see 10 more. He has his faults from time to time, but all in all he's still a keeper! |
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Post by camismom on Dec 14, 2004 12:56:27 GMT -5
You guys are distressing me. One minute you're telling me bad boys make good husbands and the next, you're growling about them! J/K Sorry JD! I'll go back to praising my bad boy husband again! |
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Post by stinker on Dec 14, 2004 19:30:38 GMT -5
nenver parise a bod boy
they're not wotht it
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