Why is it

[jdmom]

I think all women are attracted to "bad boys". I know I am. Most women are smart enough to stay away from them, but still feel that attraction. I can spot a "bad boy" from the other side of a huge crowded room, lol. At the same time as the heart starts to go pitter-patter, the alarm bells in your head start going off. Most bad boys could be labeled as ADD/ADHD. though the vice-versa is definitely not true.

[rosyred45]

My bad boy is sitting in the the living room for the past 9 years........and yup still there, just yelled for him ;D

Love him lots

[Honeysmom]

That is it exactly! Being a bad boy is attractive, and I did marry one myself. There is nothing worse than 2 adults in the same household that both have ADD and only one will acknowledge it!!

I think most women are attracted to a man who is not too stuffy and is spontanious. It is actually sort of ironic that all qualities people have can be the best asset or worse pitfall that they have.

Also, I have the dimples, I wonder if they are doing anything for me?? I should try to smile once in a while and someone might notice them!!

[jdmom]

So bad boys can make good hubbies? I haven't had much luck with them so far, lol! Maybe it just takes them a little longer to grow up? It seems that I attract them. *sigh*

My boss told me what "my problem" is the other day. He said I am too caring of a person. I attract men that need "taken care of" because I am a nurturer. So, how do you fix that, I asked him. He told me just don't get married again! LOL

[rosyred45]

Can't let anyone move in with you either, then they would be an unofficial leach ;D

My hubby and I get along so well that it is maddening sometimes. We are on the same brain path and tell each other BEFORE the other has time to think:
AND DON"T TELL ME .........., and just how did you know I was going to tell you .............

Two peas in a pod I guess
How have you been Becky?

[camismom]

I had to jump in on this one. I don't usually come to this part of the forums since I amd not an adult with ADD/ADHD, but I have to say what y'all are discussing is "right on". I believe too that women are attracted to "bad" boys. My first real love was a bad boy. He was a year older than me but a year behind me in grade. He was constantly getting in to trouble, fighting and was suspended a lot. He was known as the toughest guy in the school - noone messed with Tommy! BUT, although he was tough.... he wasn't with me. He was completely the opposite with me. That was the attractive part about him. I loved this guy over 20 years ago and to this day haven't forgotten him.

Andy's a "bad boy" too. He was apparently quite the hell-raiser in his younger years (his poor mom) and can even today get out that shelved "mess with me" image if he needs to.

Now, just the other day Cami was telling me about her latest crush and how what she likes about him most is "bad boy image." Those were her exact words, I kid you not! I asked what was so apealing about that and her answer to me IMO hit the nail right on the head. She said, "because the fact that he is bad makes him more "manly" ;D".

That's how I look at it to - men that are willing to fight the cause are seen as more "masculine" and that's the attraction.

[rosyred45]

;D ;D ;D ;D ;D

That is too funny. Bad Boy Bad Boy, whatcha gonna do, whatcha gonna do when they come for you.

OK, Get that song out of my head now

Mike was and still is bad :DAt least that's what my dad thinks. They've had words a few times, needless to say we don't hang out at my parents very often.

But that's ok, my dad was the same way and still is the same way.... he backs what he says. Don't dare cross him, or me or my sister or my mom.

[camismom]

Thanks Kaiti... now I've got that song in my head!

But yeah, Andy can be right mean when someone messes with his girls! Let's just say I have a dent on the side of my fridge to prove it. I guess better the fridge though than the guy's head!

He might get me for telling this story as he is not at all proud of it.... but I have heard the stories of a time he was taken to jail for DUI. (his one and only time) His mom came and bailed his butt out and when he got outside... still under the influence mind you... he actually ripped a couple bushes out of the police station's flower bed to "show them". ;D Needless to say he was hauled right back in where his wise ol' moma let him stay the night. ;D ;D

Bright side is that was the night he saw he could be following his dad's alcoholic tendencies and he vowed to steer clear of liquor and watch closely his consumption of beer.

[jdmom]

Having Jarrett, I don't think I would let anyone move in with me without being married first. Which has it's drawbacks. I think you would get to know a person better if you lived with them before you got married. If I had lived with my ex first, I don't think I would have ever married him. lol But I think it would be too confusing for Jarrett to have a "live-in".

I've been talking to a "bad boy" the last couple of weeks. We're supposed to go out tonight. He's a lot of fun, but I've been a little wary of him. He asked me out last week but I turned him down by telling him I already had other plans. When he asked me out again for this weekend, I went ahead and accepted. He does the sweetest things sometimes. This morning he sent me a text message that said "Good morning, Sunshine". The other day he called me to ask me "Has anyone told you today that you're beautiful?" Awww.... But then sometimes I get text messages from him late at night that say "Are you on your way over?" And the first night I met him, he tried to get me to go home with him! I told him straight up last night when he asked me out that I wasn't just a "booty call". He kinda stuttered and spluttered and then changed the subject. hmmmmm.... So I figured what the heck, I'll go out with him tonight and I know we'll have fun. He'll figure out real that I'm not jumping straight into bed with him and then we'll see if he asks me out again. But some people that I talk to about him say "He's trouble" and then some people say "He's a nice guy". I know he's a hard worker, which means a lot to me. I don't like slackers.

We'll just see how things go, I guess!

[rosyred45]

GOOD MORNING SUNSHINE=BOOTY CALL

OPPS, did I type that....typical bad boy try to play up the sweet of it.

I can't type what I was going to, I can't put it decently.

Just keep an open mind, while thinking of what others have told you good and bad.

And if all else fails......watch COPS.

Get that song outta your head yet Christy ;D

[camismom]

I had it out of my head.... then you had to bring it up again!

And hey, JDmom.... like Kaiti said, keep an open mind. Stand your ground and he may end up gaining respect for you as well as an "attraction" in the end.

But yes, I believe bad boys can make good husbands. Andy and Mike are proof of that.

[rosyred45]

:DExactly.

I think the best thing about Mike is that he won't put up with anything because HE doesn't BS people, so he wants the same in return.

Funny thing, he was out hunting last week. He was walking back to the club via township grounds---you can't hunt there----some guy comes out and says "YOU DON"T NEED TO BE HERE< MY BROTHERS ARE HUNTING HERE"

Do you know how much it took Mike to NOT call the cops He said "Well, I'm walking back to the club, and I was seeing what was were" As soon as another guy yelled and asked Mike how he was doing, this guy jumps in his truck with one of his brothers.......they are members out to the club too.

Oh did I mention they were related to me ;D ;D ;DOh Mike was sooooooo funny, he tells me at least he knows what kind of attitude to through up if he comes across them again ;D ;DThen I asked him last night what they looked like. He says, well, about like you.....yup my relatives

So how did the date go JDMOM???give us the dirt girl

[jdmom]

There wasn't a freaking date! I have to admit when he asked me out, he warned me that he was on call Friday night and that he may have to cancel at the last minute. Well, that's what he did. He had asked me out for Sat night, but I already had plans to go out with some friends. I was disappointed that we didn't go and I have to admit I wondered if he was fibbing. Then he sent me a text message at midnight apologizing for having to work and telling me that him and his friends were going out to a local club Saturday night and asking me to show up out there. His exact words were "please go". He said he would call me Saturday. Well, I never heard from him Saturday. I went to the club with a group of friends and we had a good time, but I never saw him. Right before we were fixing to leave, one of his buddies ran into me and we talked for a while. I asked him where Mike was and he said that he was around somewhere. I just rolled my eyes and told him to tell him that I said Hi and Bye.

Then Monday morning I got a text message from him saying that he saw me at the club and he was sorry for not speaking with me, but he had a date with him! I asked him why he asked me to meet him out there if he had a date and he said it wasn't supposed to last that long but "you know how it is, sh** happens". Then he asked me why I was mad because he had originally asked ME out for Sat night and I wouldn't go.

So I can't decide whether to blow him off or to keep talking to him. The comment above about his Sat night date was kinda cruddy, I thought, and it didn't impress me much. If he asks me out for this weekend, I won't be able to go. I have Jarrett and already have plans to take him to Tulsa to look at this big walk-through Christmas light display. I think I'm just gonna see how the guy reacts to that. If he keeps calling me after I have to turn him down again, I'll give him another chance. If he doesn't, well then oh well!

[rosyred45]

must be a Mike thing

Alright, you have 2 choices, blow him off totally or give him the benefit of the doubt.

If you blow him off, then that is it.

If you give him the benefit of the doubt, maybe you see tha the is a guy that doesn't like to cut ties even if he sees they need cutting----sentimental type tha tdoesn't want to hurt anyone.

Not helping am I :-[sorry

[jdmom]

I'm just going to see how things go. The ball is in his court. He called last night and said something about working a lot of overtime right now because Christmas is coming. He is on call every weekend this month except for the weekends he has his little girl. I told him that he knows my number and that if he found some free time to just give me a call. He said "you know I will". I said "I do?". Then he said "Huh, I'm confused?" I just laughed at him and told him never mind. Men!

I kinda hope he calls. He is so cute in a sexy, badboy way. I think we would have a lot of fun. He has an old jeep that he was telling me about, and flipped out when I told him that I'd love to go mudding sometime. He said he didn't think I was the type. Like I told him, he obviously doesn't know me as well as he thinks he does.lol Of course he doesn't, he hasn't even taken me out on a real date, and we've been talking for weeks now! I hate men who drag their feet.....