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Post by Allanque on Nov 9, 2004 2:29:21 GMT -5
If children born before the wedding (or in the complete absence of one!) weren't considered family, one side of the family would shrink drastically. This is the side where my brother and I are the "black" sheep. He managed to get married with no one being pregnant (a first among all our cousins on that side) and I managed to get out of HS without getting pregnant. I was the first female cousin on that side to manage that, and the aunt with the next girl after me was basically threatening my life (jokingly) if I didn't break the chain before it got down to her daughter.
I'm not even going into the in-laws (my brother's in-laws...I'm not hiding a secret marriage from y'all).
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Post by rosyred45 on Nov 9, 2004 8:35:54 GMT -5
I certainly hope you have learned to not get married until you finish your education young lady  I do agree with jdmom about the marraige being separate from the kids. That should even say the relationship itself even. My aunt got pregnant when she was going to be a senior in HS, with her and her then boyfriend thinking that they were sealed forever with having a child. They couldn't even make it to when the baby was born in January of her senior year. He has severed all ties to the baby-who is now 14, BUT they do still go see his grandmom and mom. His family even buys things for my aunts other kids, they see them all as family. Which I think is great on my aunts part, not making his family suffer because of him. There was no history of abuse or anything, they just grew up and apart. |
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Post by Linda on Nov 9, 2004 8:41:55 GMT -5
All children deserve love and acceptance...It is their due.They are innocent and not responsible for their being.
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Post by sportsmom on Nov 9, 2004 18:22:52 GMT -5
;D :DWELL SAID LINDA ;D  [/move] |
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Post by rosyred45 on Nov 9, 2004 18:31:23 GMT -5
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Post by Allanque on Nov 9, 2004 18:40:23 GMT -5
He has severed all ties to the baby-who is now 14, BUT they do still go see his grandmom and mom. His family even buys things for my aunts other kids, they see them all as family. Which I think is great on my aunts part, not making his family suffer because of him. There was no history of abuse or anything, they just grew up and apart. That reminds me of one of my aunts. Her ex-hubby told her WHILE SHE WAS IN LABOR with their third kid that he wanted a divorce. Mom says she should have just killed him then, it would have saved her a lot of trouble and no jury would ever convict her. His family realizes that he's an idiot and basically got rid of him instead of her. So the kids have both sets of grandparents and aunts and uncles and all. |
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Post by rosyred45 on Nov 9, 2004 18:51:59 GMT -5
The funniest thing about it? My dad has been working a the Mill for 29 yrs. My Husband, BIL, and a few cousins and uncles work at the mill.....we heard a few months ago the the Bio dad started working there.  I think it is the most blessed thing that they saw the kids as being innocent. Tara actually wore a couple of outfits that Nan knitted for my cousin....then I gave them back for her little sister to get pictures with. The ties that bond a family sometimes seem strange, but if it is with love, then none of it is odd |
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