men are dogs

[Linda]

If men are dogs,what are women?

[jdmom]

Nope, still haven't heard from him. It would help if I knew if he was ticked off or if he just wasn't interested anymore. I'm thinking he's ticked off. That makes it hard because I think if he would just talk to me about it, we could work it out. If that's what is wrong, I just honestly didn't realize he considered us "an item". I was pretty talkative about what all went on out at the club. But I was just talking to him as I would a good friend. Maybe that hurt his feelings? But if he is just not interested, well, there's nothing I could do about that anyway. It's the not knowing that is bothersome. Oh well.

I'm going out of town today to visit my best friend who moved several hours away. I need some girlfriend therapy. Hopefully come Monday I'll be in a much better mood!

[jdmom]

Women are probably cats...think about it!

[HooDunnit]

RE "I need some girlfriend therapy" That is probably a good idea. There are probably many sides to it all!!

[tridlette]

I actually was impressed that you jumped in and gave the male perspective of this relationship. It is very refreshing to hear something BESIDES girl friend therapy. My girlfriends are all parents of ALL boys, so we love to do the male bashing thing. It was nice to view the other side of the issue.

Thanks Barry, for defending the lesser gender!

[Linda]

Yeah we are cats...meowwwwwwwww

[HooDunnit]

Cats from Venus? lol

[Linda]

You betcha!! ;D ;D ;D

[rosyred45]

Have a great weekend with the girls. You probably already left, as I look at the clock.

I don't know if I want to be a cat, they get pretty moody. Oh never mind, I'm a cat

[catatonic]

My husband often tells me that men are dogs and that if you want your man to be happy you should treat him like a dog...give him clear commands, pat him when he's good, feed him regularly, and...(sorry, the last one is x-rated)

[rosyred45]

YUP men are dogs then

that last one

[tridlette]

rosyred45 said:

that last one

[jdmom]

Well, I had a great weekend with my girlfriends! We had a blast. Did a little shopping, a little catching up, it was great!

Spence text messaged me on Saturday. It was actually kind of funny. He was REALLY hacked off! Turns out he had gone camping and got the messages that I had sent all at once! Whoops! The first one was kinda nasty, letting me know that he was ticked. I just responded that usually he calls every night, and I thought that he was ticked off at me about something. The second one was something along the lines of don't call me anymore if you can't be a friend. I think I resonded that I didn't mind being friends but I had just gotten confused about how things stood with us. The third one said that I was acting like we were in a relationship, he wasn't ready to date exclusively, that he thought I knew that, he needed a break and would call me at a later date. At first I was kinda mad about how nasty he was being, but I got to thinking about it, and it was probably a shock to get the messages that I had sent all at once.

So I guess he wasn't ticked off about me being at the bar! heehee I think he'll call me again, though. The first message was kinda hateful, but the tone of the next messages started kind of easing up. The last message I sent him said that he had my number and he could call me if he wanted. I'm not going to call him anymore. Actually, I think if he'll just call and listen to the whole story, he'd probably think it was kind of funny. He's always teasing me about acting like a blonde and calling me "blondie". But I am going to point out to him that he started the whole mess with the screwed-up comment that he made that night I was out at the bar! What was that all about? I thought it was a warning that he thought things were getting too serious, but why would you say that to a woman who was obviously out having a good time without you? So when everyone else started telling me they thought he was ticked, it made me wonder.

Oh well, men and women are obviously from different universes. Like I said, I think he'll call or he would have just told me to get lost. Instead he said "I need a break". So we'll just see. I'm definitely not calling or messaging him, I think I've done enough of that, lol.

[HooDunnit]

RE "So I guess he wasn't ticked off about me being at the bar! heehee " Men often have double standards. lol They often want to have their freedom but not for you to have your freedom. After all, if you want something (ie him) why not just go for it (ie stay at home and wait for him to phone). lol If that isn't the case, then you need some other explanation for his unusual remark (while you were in a nightclub with your girlfriends).

[jdmom]

Yeah, we need to talk about what started this whole mess in the first place. But first he's going to have to quit seething and call me. You guys say women are complicated. But you can ask any woman alive what she wants and she will make no bones about laying out in no uncertain terms what EXACTLY she wants, when she wants it, and how she will go about getting it. And most of the time she will accomplish it, unless some man screws it up for her!LOL Men are SOooo wishy-washy.

I like Spence. He was a decent person and a lot of fun. I wouldn't mind to continue the "just dating" thing until the time comes when it becomes inconvenient for me. Then I will let him know that 1) I need something more serious or 2) I don't want to see him anymore, and then we'll move on from there. I'd explain this all to him if he would just call.

But I actually feel better now. At least now I know that he wasn't ready to get serious. Not knowing where things stood with us was what was bothering me. Now I know. I think he'll get over it and call me one day soon from out on the road somewhere, out of boredom if nothing else. Then hopefully we can talk this all out and just start over. If not, oh well, his loss!