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Post by coyote on Jan 13, 2004 14:16:17 GMT -5
Thanks, Hoo'
Yes, that's one reason for the moniker (very astute)....another is that I feel like I've spent most of my life chasing after that elusive roadrunner, to no avail! Ahhh the frustration of it all!!!
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Post by eaccae on Feb 6, 2004 12:16:33 GMT -5
Barry,
My father-in-law is adhd and he is currently the chief oncologist and a very reputable cancer center. One of his partners (my pediatrician's husband) is also adhd/mild ocd. I think the key is finding your passion! If your son has found his passion he will probably excel! I am TERRIBLE at time management (add) but I ended up being a graphic artist with major deadlines and although I am really bad at home - when I was working I really excelled. But again, I LOVED what I was doing!
I think that when add/adhd people find their passion it makes all the difference in the world!
It is better to try and fail then to not try at all!
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Post by mctavish23 on Feb 6, 2004 20:56:18 GMT -5
Hi
I know a few people who knew what they wanted to be as a kid and then followed thru, however, I wasnt one of them...lol. In fact, I finished college not knowing what I wanted to do.Ended up going thru 3 days of apptitude testing, which resulted in 2 basic picks. I chose one and pursued it and have been at it for almost 27 years.
I do believe tho that everyone has their own niche.The key is to find it and if you're lucky enough, pursue it to the best of your ability
One of the things that has always gotten me thru tough times is that I compete with myself( and no one else). I'm constantly trying to do a better job and learn from my mistakes, so that I can continue to grow personally and professionally.I don't know how you can get others to strive for the best they can do but I do think that therapists and ADHD coaches are probably best bets after family.
I wish son much luck and success. Take Care.
mctavish23(Robert)
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Post by Douglas on Feb 14, 2004 9:17:15 GMT -5
I'VE HAD A REVELATION.
For 20 years of my adult life, I survived in the workplace thru coping strategies that actually worked very well.
Finally my career situation put me in a position where those strategies couldn't continue to work. I was busted.
Everything collapsed, and I felt oh so sorry for myself for such a long time. But then I was forced to realize that coping strategies weren't primarily for avoiding detection as an ADD adult --- they were strategies for accomplishing the work I wanted to get done.
Now, in the solitude of an office where no one else intrudes, I am employing strategies to get the most out of every day, in spite of my disadvantage. And it's working! I may never be what I once was, but I can make an important contribution, I can feel good about my day, I can offer something unique in my corner of the world.
Careers don't have to be about ladder-climbing and politicking. They can be a very personal journey, filled with accomplishment that may be equally personal but no less fulfilling than the most public victories ...
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Post by mctavish23 on Feb 14, 2004 12:58:09 GMT -5
Doug, that was very well said.TY for the insight.
mctavish23(Robert)
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Post by rosyred45 on Feb 19, 2004 22:01:02 GMT -5
Douglas, one of the questions I ask my self at low points is why I do what I do. No matter what I did, even just now, and now, and now, and ok, you get the point. I have always wanted to work with kids. I have followed my heart from babysitting when I was younger, to working my way through, albeit 1 yr(got boring) of college. I have worked with kids as young as 4 weeks and as old as 14 yrs. I thank my lucky stars for each one of the kids that I have worked with. I might have cussed them at the end of a day, but I am thankful because they touched me. If they didn't, it wouldn't have upset me at the time. I have always had a hand at caring for kids, even though I wanted to dance, sing, act, be a cinematagrapher, chef, hairstlyist, (and that was all in 10th grade ;D) I know I might be late with choices for classes for next year, but I make half of what hubby makes and am twice as happy  . Kaiti |
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Post by Douglas on Feb 22, 2004 8:55:51 GMT -5
I've had a great breakthru! The clubhouse in my neighborhood was recently renovated and has wonderful areas with comfortable furniture for sitting and writing/reading/researching with my laptop ... there is also an internet room, and 3 exercise rooms.
I no longer work at home. I go to the clubhouse. I read or write to the limit (I can usually only go about 20-30 minutes before fuzzing out), then I stop, go work out for 20-30 minutes, then get back to my laptop.
This cycle keeps me back in the game despite my attention deficit, and it is (obviously) wonderfully healthy. I feel great!
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Post by rosyred45 on Feb 26, 2004 5:52:04 GMT -5
GOOD FOR YOU DOUGLAS All you need to do is find the niche that works, and when that stops working, find another one, sorta like evolution. It'll keep going, you just have to figure out how to hold on a go for the ride... Now, how do I get on? ;D Kaiti |
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Post by Linda on Feb 26, 2004 20:08:35 GMT -5
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Post by Douglas on Feb 27, 2004 8:11:22 GMT -5
Well, I went and overdid it. Minor "sports" injury ... got too enthusiastic about the exercise between work sessions.
On the other hand, this week I have set a productivity record, work-wise ... the best and most prolific work I've done since I was diagnosed ...
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Post by rosyred45 on Feb 27, 2004 8:24:43 GMT -5
Good for you with the work thing, ummmm hope your over-enthusiastic sports injury heals soon  That's ok, though, I was bound and determined to get back into, well, we'll just say, prepregnancy ;D, not working very well, almost, but not quite there yet  Anyhow, darn cyatic nerve keeps deciding to give a painful visit everytime I almost get to what I want.  I guess that's just my body telling me to knock it off and quit being so self concieous. Have a great dayTGIF Kaiti |
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Post by Zotz on Apr 4, 2004 0:48:35 GMT -5
"Lots of mini dramas tempered with lots of down time " I'm not diagnosed add, but this sounds so much like me. I'm in a job that it very unamusing, but I'm Ok and there's nobody Psycho around me, so I'm happy to be Ok.  But, I really miss my old job which was more of an crisis avoidance and repair nature to keep the building running smoothly. And, I'm not quite sure how to put it on a resume, but I've excelled in crisis situations! -s |
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Post by HooDunnit on Apr 11, 2004 18:58:25 GMT -5
My ADHD son, who is now 17 and 1/2 also seems to excel in crisis situations. He is very good at doing things / good technically. He works at a vet clinic on Saturdays as a veterinary assistent (untrained, but just as good -- that way the clinic can stretch their dollars). His only passion currently is motorcycles (and girls to a lesser extent). Despite being severely ADHD, he has an A average in grade 11 / 12. He is also a purple belt in Hapkido. But he doesn't know what he wants to do with his life. He thinks that after high school he maybe will just not go to university for a while. I suppose that that is OK. My father never went to university for six years after high school. By the time he went, he had figured out what he wanted to do, and was very motivated. Sometimes you just can't push that sort of thing.
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