Should I or Shouldn't I ??

[sportsmom]

Last night at 2:30 AM this girl calls the house wanting to talk to Riley.....I tell her that I don't appreciate her calling that late and I should call her parents and let them know that she is making such late calls and she says to me "If only you knew my parents number" (mind you in that know it all attidude--she blocked her number from caller id but I know who this girl is----she was on my cheer squad a few yrs back ) OH Riley was in his room not knowing any of this was happening ---so anyways she calls AGAIN and this time dh answers and says " Do you want me to come over to your house and lay on my car horn and wake your parents up at 2:30 in the morning and she says no but can I talk to Riley? Dh says no he is sleeping like the rest of us were!! Thankfully she did not call back but then I was up steaming for the next 2 hrs----Riley has not talked to this girl in months and has no idea why she was calling. Anyways should I call her parents and let them know what she did?? I know who her parents are but I am not sure if it is going to do any good except make me feel better ;D or should I just let it go and see if it happens again If my child did that (and pray to god that he doesn't hehe) I would want to know---but then again I care about what my kids do and would make sure some kind of punishment was handed down I am not sure if it would happen in her case??

[Linda]

Cheryl...sounds like we are living in the same world It has happened to us before too.

I would give her one more chance and if she does it again...blow the whistle on her HARD!!!!

[AnneM]

& it has also happened to us too .... a girl was on the phone asking to speak to Sam in the middle of the night ... it only happened once ... and Sam, like Riley was completley baffled as to why anyone wanted to call him at that time of the night ... In our case I think it was because one girl was staying the night with another girl ... and two girls together thought up this hairbrained idea of calling the boys they know in the middle of the night!! ...

However, back to your phone calls I agree with Linda ... once more and you get straight onto her parents!!

[Amsmom]

i know it's been a long time since i was a young teen, but, whew!! we definitely used to call guys when we were at slumber parties, but we didnt do it in the middle of the night. i also remember that we pretended to be some fictional girls, didnt use our real names.
(no caller id in the dinosaur age)

i agree...3 strikes and she's out (hehe---sportsmom)

[tridlette]

Sorry, I am old fashioned in some ways. All my friends know they can call me day or night if they need help and I will come immediately... BUT... if a girl calls here after 11 at night, I will call right back and let the parents know what is going on.

I worked night shift for 14 years and I hate being awakened if it isn't important. I have made several of those obnoxious calls as pay back.

My realtor called me three days in a row back then...when she had been told before hand not to call... and each time she called... right at lunch time... knowing that I worked 12 hour nights and was trying to sleep. She asked if she could bring clients over to show the house right then!

Next three nights at worked, I called her at 3 a.m. while I was on my dinner break. She didn't like it and finally got the hint!

I've done it to my own kids in the middle of the night after they have been up and loud the previous night.

If you disturb my sleep without reason... I don't get mad... I get even. And I am not even until I am ONE UP!

[sportsmom]

Thanks for the advice girls
After cooling off today I did not call her parents---I agree one more strike and she is OUT . She did this a few times this past summer (a bunch of kids were playing phone tag until 12:30 in the morning---so I let it slide then). We also came up with the idea that she must have been at a friends house but staying at a friends house or not she better hope that there is not a next time.

[camismom]

sportsmom said:

Anyways should I call her parents and let them know what she did??

In a word..... yes!

I would have called them first thing the next morning. Parents need to know what their kids are doing in the middle of the night and monitor them better. A good parent would care.

[finnmom]

I would have called them immediately(in morning). I too, think that parent´s should know what their kid´s are doing.... I think (at least for now) that I would want to know if my dd is calling to someone in the middle of the night

[vickilyn32]

Dan had a girl call him at 11:30 pm one night and DH answered the phone. He told her that Dan was not to use the phone that late and to call back the next day. She let the other girls know and no one has called that late since. None of the boys have ever called that late at night. (why is it always the girls ?) Amber has tried to get us to let her on the phone at night, but so far has not sneaked onto the phone after hours. I guess I would also wait and see if she calls again.

[mothercat]

I am so glad my ds14 only talks to girls on line so far... but ds11 has them lining up at school to braid his hair...gee think we better get an answering machine when he reaches that age... could be worse they could've been girls and we would be the poor parents apologizing for them. ;D ;D

[sportsmom]

When Riley went to school today I asked him if the girl said anything to him or viceversa and he said she didn't say a word and he didn't say anything to her about it---but I give him time I am sure he will make some kind of smart comment to her before the week is over (thats my boy--takes after his mom ).

[Renee]

Okay, in our house cell phones has changed this equation somewhat, but my rule is if the phone rings after I am in bed and it's not an emergency they better expect to get the third degree. My sons get phone calls from their guy friends mostly, and it is usually past 12. If I answer, I ask them if they realize how late it is and could they please limit the calls to before 10. If my kids get it first, then I give them the thrid degree and tell them to set their friends straight before i have to. I have had phone calls at 2 am that woke me up to the point I couldn't get back to sleep, so I understand your frustration, sportsmom. I think the attitude alone would have had me on to her parents the next morning.

I have also been on the other end of this. i got a call one day from a dad who said that there was a phone call to his house from our number the night before around midnight and asked who I was. I told him and my name didn't mean anything to him, nor his to me. So I apologized, said I would find out who called and make sure it didn't happen again. It turned out to be my daughter, who was 14 at the time. She was actually calling his son back, as he had just called her. But I still told her that just as I don't like late calls, neither do other parents. Plus, I was unaware that she was calling boys, particularly that late. So I was glad the dad had called so I could reinforce our phone rules.

Now, they all call each other's cells, which seem to live in their hip pocket or beside their elbow. The good news it doesn't wake me...the bad news is I can't track who they talk to so easily.

So, I guess I would nip this in the bud quickly just so it doesn't "expand". Of course now that time has passed it may be a non-issue with this girl.

[rosyred45]

Man how did I miss this the first time around

Let's just say Mike's friends have heard an ear full about calling past 10

Someone better be bleeding or dying past then, and no, I don't make bail after 10 either, so someone will be spending the night in jail if they think they can call for that too

But I have to admit I used to call Mike when I was 15 at around 1 in the morning, and his mom would answer.
:oSHE NEVER CARED Now I know why I can't disipline my kids

[camismom]

rosyred45 said:

But I have to admit I used to call Mike when I was 15 at around 1 in the morning, and his mom would answer.

But when Tara does this one day... who will get the blame? You bad influence you!

[rosyred45]

Let's see, I know not to keep the phones out AND I also know to keep an eye out in case she tries to sneak buying a phone to plug in when we take the other phones away.

Yes, I really do know all the tricks