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Post by george2 on Jul 5, 2005 21:06:55 GMT -5
To DS,
I was a teacher for twenty years and I have had ADHD all of my life. My principal and his daughter have ADHD also. My Doctor has it too. You are not alone. You did a great job at the interview. I am very proud of you. You keep being such a great kid.
You are the reason for the appointment. This is because it is important to make things work so you can make things be more able for you to do what you need to do. Just listen to the doctor and what he says you can use is good for you, and what he says that you don't think works for you doesn't have to happen if it doesn't help you.
Your friend and fellow ADHD buddy,
George
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Post by camismom on Jul 6, 2005 8:43:14 GMT -5
Sandy, I think it is true when you say he takes things literally. I have noticed that with Cami too sometimes. I'll call her after her swim practice and ask what they did and she'll answer swim, like I'm stupid for asking. lol I don't think she understands that what I'm asking is what specific stroke they worked on today while swimming. She can also blank out sometimes when asked a question. Sometimes I wonder if it's shyness or just her brain not working fast enough to come up with an answer that sounds "right" to her. The day I took her to sign up for the swimming she talked with me on the way there about why we were signing her up. She has a goal to make her high school's swim team when she gets to high school so she hoped that by taking this "class" this summer and next she could gain enough experience to do so. When she found out that columbus has a swim team she talked further about hoping when the summer is over she could join the Hurricanes and continue with the practice and exposure to bettering her strokes thru them. All this was talked about ON THE WAY TO SIGN HER UP. Now, when we get there one of the coaches came up and introduced himself. He then asked Cami what her plans were, why she was joining, etc. She looked at him, shrugged her shoulders, and mumbled "I dunno." I could have strangled her! Instead I stood there in amazement wondering why she would do that when she had just told me exactly what the man was wanting to know!
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Post by george2 on Jul 6, 2005 9:47:59 GMT -5
Some things have to happen in baby steps. It might be that one question or response could be a start. You could set up a public situation where DS had one response ready that would have positive reinforcement guaranteed. This could lead to two pieces of information DS could have the next time and on to the comfort that what ever input offered would be respected.
It's like if you went to watch a football game at a stadium and without any warning someone walked up into the stands and asked you to come with them and lead you to the microphone and wanted you to solo the Star Spangle Banner for twenty-thousand people. It's not the effort it's the reaction to what you would sing that would make you feel uncomfortable. If you practiced in front of one or two people and then sang it in front of ten, then twenty, then one hundred, then three hundred, you would feel success. It's the same way for DS.
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Post by Amsmom on Jul 6, 2005 21:11:22 GMT -5
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Post by SKay on Jul 6, 2005 21:39:03 GMT -5
Thanks everyone.
Yes, Amsmom. Sometimes he can be so kind and tenderhearted. Unfortunately, most of the time we just hear, "He's hyper. He won't sit still. He wants to goof off in class." These things are true and need to be addressed, but I'd like to hear good things too.
Come to think of it, there have been a couple of things lately. At the park on the 4th, I guess he accidentally butted in line in front of a little kid, and when the mother said something to him, he said "Oh, I'm sorry; I didn't know. . . ." The mother is the one who told us about it. She said that she works at a day-care and just doesn't see the thoughtfulness that he portrayed (after he realized he was being rude ;D). She was very complimentary. We made sure we told him about that too.
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Post by SKay on Jul 24, 2005 21:44:57 GMT -5
Well, the 1st appt. is getting closer--only 2 weeks from tomorrow. I found a babysitter today so I think we're all set. We're on vacation until that day, so the time is going to go quickly.
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Post by finnmom on Jul 25, 2005 1:48:02 GMT -5
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Post by mskris on Jul 27, 2005 14:58:26 GMT -5
"Sometimes I wonder if it's shyness or just her brain not working fast enough to come up with an answer that sounds "right" to her. "
After the Developmental Pediatrician tested DS, she said he doesn't process quickly enough. That's why he does so poorly on timed tests. This, plus anxiety, may be the reasons your kids don't know how to answer people they don't know well.
Kris
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