Post by milesofsmiles on Jun 10, 2005 14:14:09 GMT -5
Hi all, it has been a while since I logged in. So much has happened, but not much has changed. Nathan is still the same ball of fire. I know that he has a lot to learn about how much affect he has on other people by the way he responds and reacts with others.
Today is officially the last day of school. They are spending the day at the pool. His school year on the whole is better than last year, but he still left room for improvment. The last month of school the teachers threw up their arms and did not have a clue how to handle him when he decided he did not want to do the work. He decided on his own that he hates subtraction and refused to do any of it when it showed up on paper. He has a high level of anxiety and his therapist is working on him realizing that and dealing with his frustration he feels.
I have lowered the bar again on my expectations. I found myself expecting him to have the same level of responsibilty as I had at 8. But he is not me and I just have to work on the basics, no matter how frustrating it is. I know that when you are living in the moment, it is difficult to see the overall improvments made in other areas. I think that one of the biggest things we are going to have to deal with is his potential diagnosis of depression. He has no incentive to please or motivate himself to accomplish things for himself or others. That is the saddest part. It comes across as being stubborn and defiant. It has been like this for so long. No matter how much we (the parents) change how we approach his behavior, nothing changes. We fear that medications are the last resort. But if it helps him, all the better.
Out of 180 days of school, we were on time for 6 days. It has been an exhausting year.
Miles
Today is officially the last day of school. They are spending the day at the pool. His school year on the whole is better than last year, but he still left room for improvment. The last month of school the teachers threw up their arms and did not have a clue how to handle him when he decided he did not want to do the work. He decided on his own that he hates subtraction and refused to do any of it when it showed up on paper. He has a high level of anxiety and his therapist is working on him realizing that and dealing with his frustration he feels.
I have lowered the bar again on my expectations. I found myself expecting him to have the same level of responsibilty as I had at 8. But he is not me and I just have to work on the basics, no matter how frustrating it is. I know that when you are living in the moment, it is difficult to see the overall improvments made in other areas. I think that one of the biggest things we are going to have to deal with is his potential diagnosis of depression. He has no incentive to please or motivate himself to accomplish things for himself or others. That is the saddest part. It comes across as being stubborn and defiant. It has been like this for so long. No matter how much we (the parents) change how we approach his behavior, nothing changes. We fear that medications are the last resort. But if it helps him, all the better.
Out of 180 days of school, we were on time for 6 days. It has been an exhausting year.
Miles
