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Post by songwriter on Jul 16, 2004 12:03:41 GMT -5
Hello Everyone, My name is Heather (Songwriter's Wifey) What's it like being married to ADHD? Well... let me tell you. You remember abc sports? The thrill of victory?  The agony of defeat?  Those are the mood swings I'm still learning to navigate. One moment it's all sunshine and butterflies.  The next moment, batten down the hatches!  But it's never boring. I can't imagine being married to anyone else. Maybe I'll wait for another friday to say what it's like to be a linear parent to an ADHD son and maybe we can talk about what it's like being caught between spouse and child misunderstandings. But for now you have my two cents on the thrills and spills of being married to songwriter. Anyone else relate? --Songwife-- |
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Post by Linda on Jul 16, 2004 12:11:50 GMT -5
Hi Heather...Are you kidding? I am a gramma raising my 16 year old grandson since he was an infant.
I can spot an ADDER a mile away ;DI am sooo geared towards them.I think they are exceptionally bright and creative people with a wild sense of humor that I can relate to.
My Grandson's name is Paul also....and he has "outgrown" so many of his so called deficits.I so want to give hope to parents that are struggling with their younger children with ADHD because there is light at the end of the tunnel.We just have to hang in there.
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Post by rosyred45 on Jul 16, 2004 13:32:26 GMT -5
Hi Heather, While me and my husband have never been diagnosed officially, Mikey, our son, gets it honest. I also think my daughter is touching on ADD-no H. It's quite fun around our house. None of us ever sits still, unless there is a good show on or I'm here  Everything is gogogo, so yup. The ABC Sprots thing is a GREAT Comparison. Take care Kaiti btw, I can spot em too, but they usually spot me first and it's like a magnet |
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Post by finnmom on Jul 16, 2004 14:44:10 GMT -5
Hi Heather, nice to hear your thought´s too  My son is adhd, and I can so relate for the mood swing´s... It´s like a rollercoaster-ride up and down, up and down... o one day you really have to think if you were going up or down ;D Come visit us next week too |
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Post by jdmom on Jul 16, 2004 17:13:27 GMT -5
Jarrett is actually here with me at work today (again). So, I thought I'd let him say hi to you guys! Oh, BTW, hello Heather! Nice to meet you. Hope to see you around some more! hello.i'm jarrett.I'm at my mom's work today.I'm playing computer games.Nice to meet you. Wow, he did that by himself. It took forever, LOL. But he spelt computer all by himslef! For those of you who read my other post, yes, I caved in a let him play on the computer! |
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Post by songwriter on Jul 16, 2004 17:30:11 GMT -5
Jarrett- It's so nice of you to accompany your mom to work and keep her in line!  |
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Post by Linda on Jul 16, 2004 17:33:50 GMT -5
I hope Heather keeps you in line Paul!!  |
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Post by jdmom on Jul 16, 2004 17:33:59 GMT -5
Sorry, I can't pull him away from the computer games long enough to reply. I think we've got the "hyperfocus" going on. Usually he would be standing over my shoulder asking me a million questions about what I'm doing. But, I'm about to burst his bubble, cause I'm ready to go home!  |
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Post by songwriter on Jul 16, 2004 17:43:23 GMT -5
Linda- Heather tries to keep me in line and then I say,"yes, Mother" and then a first class fight ensues. |
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Post by Linda on Jul 16, 2004 17:55:28 GMT -5
OMG...I do the same thing with my husband....yes Daddy...and off we go ;D
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Post by songwriter on Jul 16, 2004 17:59:29 GMT -5
Dear Linda, This is Heather. I don't keep him in line. There's just a lot we don't see eye to eye on. There's a saying. You can always tell a German but you can't tell him much. Well, my DH is 100% Kraut even though he lives in the heartland of the good old U.S.A. He's stubborn and comes by it honestly. Both his parents were that way and they would have wonderful fights (get the popcorn and a ringside seat). I finally learned that in order to communicate with him, I needed to hang diplomacy on a hook and talk loud and strong or he simply won't understand. He misses the subltle verbal cues of quiet conversation. Just another small adjustment I had to make. I used to think he didn't care. Now I know he just doesn't always understand what I'm saying so I make sure. He really is sensative to my needs, I just have to make sure he knows what they are, loudly. --songwife-- ------------------------------------------------------------------------ What was that, wifey?- I didnt get it! Better yell louder. Paul p.s.- Maybe we should call this 'Family Feud Friday' |
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Post by SKay on Jul 16, 2004 21:05:07 GMT -5
Just remember, Paul, this was all your idea! ;D
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Post by songwriter on Jul 16, 2004 22:29:36 GMT -5
So who's the next brave contestant to step into the ring?
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Post by Linda on Jul 17, 2004 8:50:34 GMT -5
Oh we are having to much fun with Heather getting on your "case". I agree with skay...this was your idea. ;D ;D
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Post by songwriter on Jul 17, 2004 11:23:19 GMT -5
This is beginning to remind me of a commercial:
Rub it in rub it in.
skay and linda, really i'm having a good time with this.I'm not quite as sensitive as I used to be (and that's a GOOD thing)
hope to hear from your loved one(s) next friday.
Paul
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